tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-389217180689999852.post4784645009042474011..comments2023-07-26T16:18:53.834+03:00Comments on Serenity in Chaos: Feelings...Nothing More Than Feelings...Amelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-389217180689999852.post-41971674213448439772015-07-17T13:59:30.925+03:002015-07-17T13:59:30.925+03:00No, that doesn't sound weird at all and I'...No, that doesn't sound weird at all and I'm grateful for your sharing this POV with me, Mali. It sure lightened me up in many ways, so thank you. Really appreciate it. :-)<br /><br />I think part of the reason I felt that way was that I'd always been the most sensitive one in the bunch, so I was grieving the fact that infertility only added more to that part of myself so to speak. When she showed such sensitivity, it brought this realization back to life, because it's something I can't undo. I suppose remembering the permanency of it all made me grieve, too. Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-389217180689999852.post-89206154223924653712015-07-17T13:55:03.319+03:002015-07-17T13:55:03.319+03:00I think I find it easier to hear to my mom's s...I think I find it easier to hear to my mom's stories about my brother's children, but it probably has more to do with the fact that his having children enables me to get rid of the guilt I used to feel for not being able to give any grandchildren. <br /><br />LOVE what you're saying about a chance to find things we like to do on our own or with our spouses. :-)Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-389217180689999852.post-81619703272967823132015-07-15T02:57:21.116+03:002015-07-15T02:57:21.116+03:00I understand this post. I too am sad that you feel...I understand this post. I too am sad that you feel sad that she had to be sensitive to you. But isn't that what friendship is? Isn't that what being a decent human being is? We're considerate of others, because we all have things we're better at, or have luck in ways that friends and family don't, and make allowances for them. So that they can do so for us too, when it's necessary. Yes, it sucks that they have to. But I don't really feel sad about that, because it also gives them the opportunity to be a better person. To learn and to grow. And maybe to even appreciate their good fortune when previously they might not have done. And I wouldn't deny them that. Does that sound weird? Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-389217180689999852.post-55909953977406595552015-07-14T22:03:01.046+03:002015-07-14T22:03:01.046+03:00This is such a timely post! I feel the same way ! ...This is such a timely post! I feel the same way ! <br />I call my parents daily and often it is hard to talk to my mother on the phone because she has the grand-kids over, or is about to do something with them. I feel like the older child pushed aside for the younger one. I also feel the same way about my friends and family making more babies. It is hard to do things with my parents as they are so very wrapped up with the little kids, and these new parents to be will be as well. Aging will simply supply more situations where we will find ourselves left to entertain ourselves. It is a good chance to find things we like to do on our own or with our spouses...as there will be more time available with them : )The Barrenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09720146541893738473noreply@blogger.com