Tuesday, January 22, 2013

On Forgiveness

During my IF journey, I'm reminded over and over again of this lesson. Forgiveness. 

Forgiving myself over and over again whenever I felt all those nasty things that made me become my own worst enemy. Forgiving myself after I snapped on some friends who meant well, who were at a loss on what to say. Forgiving them who said all the wrong things despite their intentions. Forgiving myself for being jealous and for not being able to be happy when I saw pregnant bellies. Forgiving myself for not being able to say "congratulations" sincerely when I heard pregnancy news. Forgiving strangers or semi-strangers who flippantly said "just relax" or even joked about our infertility or said "you can just adopt". Forgiving myself on bad days when I felt like being cynical towards the whole world.

Forgiveness isn't an easy lesson, especially when one is hurting and bleeding inside. 

Here are some quotes I love about forgiveness:

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. 
- Suzanne Somers

Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness. 
- Marianne Williamson 

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."

- Mother Teresa

Quotes taken from here and here.


  1. Thank you for those quotes... I liked the Mother Theresa one, especially. The whole thing is between me and my God. I have to keep that in mind.

  2. Yup, Amel- that's what I'm working on, for myself and for the person that I talked about in one of my posts- mostly, myself. I like "Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself."- ....I just need to work on that I have the right to give myself that gift, you know? I guess it's much easier to blame myself for waiting too long, finding so many excuses to postpone being a mother, all that.

    I'm working on it. :) Promise.

    1. LOVE the spirit!!! It's indeed not easy and we have to learn the lesson over and over again, but I'm with you on that. I'm also learning and learning and learning to forgive myself and others. :-)


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